Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Some Tips for HUSBANDS & WIVES ...For a Strong Relationship!!!" ................................... As You Have To Take Life As A Positive Game"!!!!!


The following are some tips for HUSBANDS & WIVES that I have been watching in my own home, and I hope you find them helpful.....Try To Strong It....More!!!!

1. Tell your spouse “I love you” each and every single day.

2. Always say please and thank you.

3. Never demand anything one of another, but ask kindly with respect – like you would from anyone else out side the home.



4. Husbands, you don’t own your wife, so don’t act like it. Don’t be bossy and overbearing and order them around like a slave. Support them as the physically weaker vessel and love them and give yourself for them like Christ gave himself for the church .

Wives submit to your own husband in temporal matters as it is fitting in the Lord , however, in spiritual matters Christ is your head not your husband. Men are not the head of women but husbands are the head of their wives (the relationship denotes the headship is concerning temporal matters). Christ is head of the Church (the relationship denotes Christ is the head of women concerning spiritual matters) and in Christ Jesus there is neither male or female .


5. Wives don’t nag your husbands. If they have been too busy to get something done that is important to you, and you have already asked them a number of times, try asking them after you have done something nice for them. Or ask if there is anything you can do to help them get started on their project. You will find this goes over much better then telling them “I have been asking for two months now to fix the leaking tap. When are you ever going to get this done? It is so hard to get you to do anything around here!”

6. Husband, thank your wife for each meal, when laundry is done and for how well your clothes have been folded, and when the home is cleaned and what a clean house she keeps. Wives, when you husband fixes something around the home thank him, and when he brings home his check tell him what a good provider he is.

7. Each day ask the other if there is anything you can do for them.


8. You both need to be patient with eachother’s weaknesses and faults. You should not make a practice of pointing out eachothers faults over and over. Remember that love will cover a multitude of faults. Deal with the other’s faults the way you want them to deal with yours.

9. Be always seeking what you can put into the marriage – not what you can get out of it.

10. Make a practice of trying to give into eachother when there are differences. That way when you really feel strong about something, your spouse will not have such a hard time giving into you.

11. Pray daily for each other and carry a burden for eachother’s spiritual welfare.

12. Have family devotions together each morning – even if it is only 5 or 10 minutes.

13. Keep a list of the things your spouse asks you to do on the cork board. When you spouse asks you to do something make sure you put it on your list and put a date beside it so you know how long it has been there. Cross off the items on the list as you do them. It is okay to offer to do something on your list if your spouse will do something on their list.

14. Never discuss each others past faults and mistakes in front of other people. While your spouse may laugh along with you and not say anything about it later, you may have hurt them deep down.

15. Don’t allow a disagreement to escalate into an argument and certainly not in public or in front of your children.

16. If you get into a charged disagreement with your spouse that digresses to a point where you are bringing up each others faults and failures, it is best to end the conversation with prayer and set a time to discuss the issue the following day. Before you enter into discussion you should lay some guidelines for resolving conflicts. You should also pray apart to make sure you have grace and then pray together before you start the discussion and ask God to give you both grace to conduct the discussion in a godly manner....

Friday, August 21, 2009























DO YOU FIND YOURSELF IN A LIFE CHALLENGE OR TRIAL - NOT SURE WHICH WAY TO TURN? HAS AN EVENT OR ILLNESS SUDDENLY CHANGED THE WHOLE PATTERN OF YOUR LIFE AND YOUR PLAN FOR THE FUTURE? LIFE CHALLENGES CAN SHAKE YOU AT YOUR VERY CORE. LIFE IS THE SUM OF EXPERIENCES THAT WE ENCOUNTER AS GO THROUGH LIFE. DAY TO DAY TO STRUGGLES AND TRIUMPHS ARE EXPERIENCED BY ALL OF THE WORLD'S CREATURES. AS HUMAN BEINGS, WHEN WE ENCOUNTER A CHALLENGE, WE HAVE FREEDOM TO CHOOSE HOW TO REACT. EVERY DECISION THAT WE MAKE LEADS US DOWN ANOTHER ROAD. WE WILL NEVER COME TO EXACTLY THE SAME CROSSROADS. EVERY DECISION THE WE MAKE HAS SIGNIFICANCE. THE TINIEST CHOICE THAT IS MADE REVERBERATES THROUGHOUT THE ENTIRE UNIVERSE. IT IS MY DESIRE THAT THROUGH THE POEMS BELOW, YOU WILL FIND COMFORT FOR YOUR PAST, PRACTICAL HELP FOR TODAY AND LASTING HOPE FOR YOUR FUTURE…..BECAUSE IT’S THE GAME OF LIFE,IN WHICH YOU CAN’T PREDEFINE YOUR FUTURE,WHAT WILL HAPPEN NEXT………..

1.

Life is a challenge - meet it


Life is a gift - accept it


Life is a sorrow - over come it



Life is a tregedy - face it


Life is a mystery - unfold it - unsolve it


Life is a opportunity - take it


Life is a promise - complete it


Life is a struggle - fight it


Life is a goal - achieve it


Life is love - love it


Life can be adventures - enjoy it


Life is a duty - perform it


Life is a game
- out smart it


Life is a beauty - praise it


Life is life - live it - make of something good of it

2.

Betrayal
Love
Loyalty
Respect

These all part of real life.
All part of everyday life.
Part of the life we live.
Part of life that shall never change.

Real life is a game.
Real life is dangerous.
Real life brings pain.
Real life brings fear.

Real life isn’t easy.
Real life is the world and the world is real life.
Real life is full of sorrow and hate.
For real life brings joy and happiness.

Also brings betrayal and death.
Real life is precious and wont last for ever.
So Enjoy real life as long as you can .
Before its gone and never comes back.




3.





Life is full of surprises and shocks
while we are planning and deciding
our next move,
our course of action
It moves in opposite direction,
without warning
while we spend a lifetime,
thinking and planning
about our future,
our loved ones
It takes a step further beyond our thinking
everything about life is always uncertain
the only thing constant thing about it is
it is always moving like a dice of a game



so keep moving, as a minister of chess



and without worries,keep smiling always .......









WHEN MY MIND IS STILL...I THINK ABOUT MY LIFE'S DREAMS!!!!!!!!


WHEN MY MIND IS STILL AND
ALONE WITH THE BEATING OF MY HEART,
I REMEMBER THINGS TOO EASILY FORGOTTEN:
THE PURITY OF EARLY LOVE,
THE MATURITY OF UNSELFISH LOVE THAT ASKS --
DESIRES -- NOTHING BUT ANOTHER'S GOOD,
THE IDEALISM THAT HAS PERSISTED
THROUGH ALL THE TEMPEST OF LIFE.
WHEN MY MIND IS STILL AND
ALONE WITH THE BEATING OF MY HEART,
I CAN FIND A QUIET ASSURANCE,
AN INNER PEACE,
IN THE CORE OF MY BEING.
IT CAN FACE THE DOUBT,
THE LONELINESS, THE ANXIETY,
CAN ACCEPT THESE HARSH REALITIES
AND CAN EVEN GROW
BECAUSE OF THESE CHALLENGES
TO MY ESSENTIAL BEING.
WHEN MY MIND IS STILL ANDALONE
WITH THE BEATING OF MY HEART
I CAN SENSE MY BASIC HUMANITY,
AND THEN I KNOW THAT ALL MEN AND WOMEN
ARE MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS.
NOTHING BUT MY OWN FEAR AND DISTRUST
CAN SEPARATE ME FROM
THE LOVE OF FRIENDS.
IF I CAN TRUST OTHERS,
ACCEPT THEM, ENJOY THEM,
THEN MY LIFE SHALL SURELY
BE RICHER AND MORE FULL.
IF I CAN ACCEPT OTHERS, THIS WILL
HELP THEM TO BE MORE TRULY THEMSELVES,
AND THEY WILL BE MORE ABLE TO ACCEPT ME.
WHEN MY MIND IS STILL AND
ALONE WITH THE BEATING OF MY HEART,
I KNOW HOW MUCH LIFE HAS GIVEN ME:
THE HISTORY OF THE RACE, FRIENDS AND FAMILY,
THE OPPORTUNITY TO WORK,
THE CHANCE TO BUILD MYSELF.
THEN WELLS WITHIN ME
THE URGE TO LIVE MORE ABUNDANTLY,
WITH GREATER TRUST AND JOY,
WITH MORE PROFOUND
SERIOUSNESS AND EARNEST SERVICE,
AND YET MORE CALMLY AT THE HEART OF LIFE.
LIFE IS FULL OF BEAUTY. NOTICE IT.
NOTICE THE BUMBLE BEE,
THE SMILING FACES AND SMALL CHILD.
SMELL THE RAIN, AND FEEL THE WIND.
LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST POTENTIAL,
LIFE IS A GAME AND FIGHT FOR YOUR DREAMS….

Thursday, August 20, 2009

QUOTES ABOUT LIFE !!!!!!!!

TELL ME NOT, IN MOURNFUL NUMBERS,
LIFE IS BUT AN EMPTY DREAM!
FOR THE SOUL IS DEAD THAT SLUMBERS,
AND THINGS ARE NOT WHAT THEY SEEM
LIFE IS REAL! LIFE IS EARNEST
AND THE GRAVE IS NOT ITS GOAL
DUST THOU ART; TO DUST RETURNEST,
WAS NOT SPOKEN OF THE SOUL.
- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

LIFE IS AN OPPORTUNITY, BENEFIT FROM IT.
LIFE IS BEAUTY, ADMIRE IT.

LIFE IS BLISS, TASTE IT.

LIFE IS A DREAM, REALIZE IT.

LIFE IS A CHALLENGE, MEET IT.

LIFE IS A DUTY, COMPLETE IT.

LIFE IS A GAME, PLAY IT.
LIFE IS A PROMISE, FULFILL IT.
LIFE IS SORROW, OVERCOME IT.

LIFE IS A SONG, SING IT.

LIFE IS A STRUGGLE, ACCEPT IT.

LIFE IS A TRAGEDY, CONFRONT IT.
LIFE IS AN ADVENTURE, DARE IT.

LIFE IS LUCK, MAKE IT.

LIFE IS TOO PRECIOUS, DO NOT DESTROY IT.

LIFE IS LIFE, FIGHT FOR IT.


"BE HAPPY WHILE YOU'RE LIVING, FOR YOU'RE A LONG TIME DEAD."

EVERYONE SAYS, "HOW THE TIME FLIES." THE DAYS GO BY AND THEY ARE YEARS, AND THE YEARS FINALLY BECOME OUR WHOLE LIFE. EACH DAILY PORTION CAN BE WASTED, OR IT CAN BE A PLEASURE, BEFORE IT IS GONE FOREVER. IF A BEDTIME REVIEW OF THE DAY CONCLUDES THAT WE WERE TOO STRESSED, TOO BUSY, DIDN'T ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING, DIDN'T HAVE ANY FUN, THEN IT HAS BEEN ANOTHER LOST PIECE OF PRECIOUS LIFE.

PERHAPS WE ARE PUTTING OFF OUR ENJOYMENT UNTIL WE HAVE MORE TIME, OR MONEY, OR SOME OTHER IMPROVED CONDITION. THE TROUBLE WITH THAT IS THAT IT MIGHT NEVER HAPPEN, OR IT MAY BE TOO LONG IN COMING. IT'S SO IMPORTANT TO ACCEPT THIS TIME, THIS VERY MINUTE, AS SOMETHING OF TREMENDOUS VALUE THAT WILL VERY SOON BE GONE FOREVER. THERE ARE MANY WAYS TO ENSURE THAT WE MAKE THE BEST OF OUR TIME HERE ON EARTH.


"THIS WORLD, AFTER ALL OUR SCIENCE AND SCIENCES, IS STILL A MIRACLE; WONDERFUL, MAGICAL AND MORE, TO WHOSOEVER WILL THINK OF IT." -
Thomas Carlyle (1795-1881)


IN OUR DAILY ROUTINE LETS INCLUDE TIME TO ENJOY OTHERS AND THUS OURSELVES. LOOK AND WONDER AT THE TREES, FIELDS AND MOUNTAINS, SMELL THE FLOWERS, HEAR THE BIRDS, AND WATCH THE CLOUDS IN THE SKY.TAKE LIFE AS A MIND STIMULATING GAME LIKE CHESS….THINK CAREFULLY AND JUST PLAY IT….DONT GET BORE OR DISHEARTEN.
FACE YOUR PROBLEMS BRAVELY, CONFIDENTLY, AND IMPROVE ON YOUR SITUATION, NO MATTER WHAT STATE IT BE IN. BE GOOD TO FEEL GOOD.
BE ACTIVE AND IMPROVE YOUR MIND. LAUGH, RELAX, AND SLEEP WELL.
LIFE IS MOSTLY FROTH AND BUBBLE;
TWO THINGS STAND LIKE STONE:
KINDNESS IN ANOTHER'S TROUBLE,
COURAGE IN OUR OWN. –
Adam Gordon (1833-1870)

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

LIFE...........

"DIFFERENT MEANINGS AND VIEWS ABOUT LIFE: DEPENDING UPON DIFFERNT PERSONS..."

LIFE:AS IT IS !!!!!!!!!!!!!

SOMETIMES IT FEELS SO WORTHY TO BE HERE, TO LIVE IN FUN AND FEEL THE FRAGRANCE OF HAPPINESS. AND SOMETIMES ITS JUST A WONDER AS TO WHY AM HERE…..THE PURPOSE OF BEING HERE……AND MANY TIMES ITS SHEER PLEASURE TO WATCH THE GOLDEN SUNSET, THE BEAUTIFUL FULL MOON AMIDST THE SWAYING LEAVES OF TREES, AND THE DEW DROPS THE LEAVES HOLD….


I LOVE THE WAY THE BIRDS WAKE ME UP WITH THEIR QUEAKS AND CHIRPS EARLY IN THE MORNING….AND I WONDER WHY THEY DON’T MAKE ME ANGRY AT ALL UNLIKE OTHERS. TO WATCH THEM, IS A REAL SWEET THING TO DO; IT MAKES ME SMILE. IF I DID NOT HAVE TO CAGE THEM, I WOULD HAVE ALWAYS HAD THEM WITH ME; AFTERALL IT FEELS SO GREAT TO TALK TO THEM…..


I LOVE THE WAY ALL THESE PRETTY THINGS ABOUT NATURE ARE DESIGNED……MEETING PERFECTION……AND SOMETIMES I FEEL THAT THE LIVES OF TOM AND JERRY ARE REAL GREAT, IT WOULD BE SO NICE IF EVERYTHING IN LIFE WOULD BE SIMILAR TO ALL THAT HAPPENS ON A CARTOON SHOW. ITS LIKE, YOU CAN TURN THINGS THE WAY YOU WANT THEM TO BE, YOU SURE GET HURT BUT IT WON’T LAST LONG….ITS ALL GREAT……LIKE A GAME…..


HOWEVER, SOMETIMES LIFE IS MERE NONSENSE.IT DOES NOT DO THINGS ACCORDING TO OUR WISH….THE THINGS WE LOVE GOES OR RUIN QUICKLY….BUT STILL IF THEY WILL NOT GO, HOW WILL YOU GET A NEW AND BETTER ONE???YOU WILL NEVER GET TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE GOOD AND BAD…THE THING YOU HAVE LOVED WAS GOOD OR THE THING YOU ARE HAVEING NOW IS GOOD!!!!!!!I LOVE IT ALL…….I LOVE THE WAY GOD HAS GIVEN ME THE POWER TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN MINE AND OTHERS’ LIVES…..YES…LIFE IS LIKE A GAME….YOU WILL HAVE TO PLAY IT WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT ANY CONSEQUENCESES.THEN ONLY YOU CAN BE HAPPY ALWAYS….........................